Life- Finite or Infinite game?

Is life a finite or an Infinite game?

Does your approach towards life depend on whether you see it as a finite or an Infinite game?

In Game theory, there are two types of games: Finite and Infinite. Finite games are played with fixed set of rules and the objective is to win. Infinite game doesn’t have any definite rules as such and the main objective is to perpetuate the game.

Most of us see life as a finite game wherein we want to win this game by chasing fame and money. In search of happiness and fulfillment, we are always on a hedonic treadmill. This approach towards life never makes us feel calm and peaceful but always anxious for our new goals. For someone in college, getting a high paying job is the next big thing. For someone in job, getting a promotion is the next big thing. For someone having his/her own business, getting the first or next round of funding is the next big thing.

So, the question is whether the things we do are wrong or whether our approach is wrong? If there is any problem with the way, we see our life? If our sole purpose should be to hop from one goal to another OR there is a bigger picture to it?

It’s surprising to see, how everything changes once we start seeing life as an infinite game. Since, the main objective of the infinite game is to perpetuate the game. So, we are not competing with others but working on continuing the game which can only be being a better player of this game. Being a better player demands continuous improvement. Continuous improvement makes us more adaptable to this game of life.

As per Charles Darwin, “It is not the strongest of species that survives, nor the most intelligent that survives. It is one that is most adaptable to the change.Image result for adaptable

So, infinite players are adaptable and improving continuously. For them every day of improvement is a win which keeps them going. Infinite player doesn’t need to wait for years to achieve something, but they are achieving daily with every step of positive improvement. Infinite players are not obsessed about their competition but continuous improvement.

In conclusion, Life is an infinite game and the way we feel about our life changes the moment we start seeing it as an Infinite game. The objective is to perpetuate the game by enhancing our life skills over a period of time which will make us a better player of the game of life.

Remember – “Life as an infinite game is about chasing excellence whereas Life as a finite game is about chasing Success.” When you chase excellence, success eventually follows.

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Developing a Morning Routine

You decide to develop a new habit and find yourself stuck with the old ones, even one month post making that decision. Procrastination is our natural habit, we keep on procrastinating anything which takes effort and is full of boredom.

I was also facing the same challenge of procrastination 1 year back when i wanted to develop a morning routine which should comprise of workout and reading. It took a lot of will power at the start of the new habit. I was feeling pathetic the whole day when i started waking up at 5.30 am. Each day was really challenging for me, I used to hate the the sound of morning alarm. But, how did i pull it off? When i look back, I believe knowingly and unknowingly I have made some good and bad choices and here are the insights i gained from them:

  1. The first week is the most difficult one or the first step is the the most difficult. Once you have taken your first step you gain confidence to take the next one.
  2. You need a lot of will power and willingness to suffer at the start of the process of change. Once you have made up your mind to suffer the suffering subsides over time.
  3. You need to be consistent with the process of change, any small gap in between the consistency is enough to pull you back to your old habit, so tread the path carefully.
  4. After first few days, the routine starts getting boring, so this is true test of your character. You need to understand the boredom is the part of the process.
  5. You don’t gain confidence on the day when you feel like waking up early, instead you gain confidence on the day you wake up early even if you don’t feel like doing it.
  6. Any positive habit give you a compounded return, so you will have to wait for that threshold period when you can break even to exceptional returns.
  7. Even after you have done it for so many days, you can’t take things for granted, our mind is so tuned to laziness and procrastination that it’s very easy to fall back to your temptations of sleeping late.
  8. Finally, you should always consider that it’s your day one, like Amazon calls it and you will never be complacent.

So, these are my few learning from the morning routine I developed in last 12 months.